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22/7/2025

Why I turned up to football practice Once and never went back

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It's great to see all the excitement around the Lionesses competing at the Euros. I love a good role model and that team is packed with them. They've done a fantastic job of raising awareness of women's football and creating opportunities for young girls to get involved with the sport.

​Whilst it's important to talk about successes, it's also important to discuss the challenges. Things are improving slowly, but we still have many gaps, barriers, and challenges to tackle.

I want to share my experiences of football (this was before I became disabled) and how a negative incident can have an impact on participation rates. I've written about it in my latest book, Shoot for the Stars:

I signed up for football practice in my first week at secondary school. The empty changing room echoed hollowly as I pulled on my PE kit, hoping the other girls were running late. Nobody else turned up and I walked outside, alone. 
 
It turned out that football was very popular, just not with the girls. Over thirty boys crowded around the PE block. “Time for the warm-up. Get into pairs and we’ll jog around the pitch,” barked the PE teacher.
 
The boys moved away from me quickly. “I don’t want to be stuck with the girl,” one guy hissed. I pretended I hadn’t heard and turned towards another boy. “I’m with him,” he said, jabbing his finger towards the partner he’d miraculously found.
 
This carried on until there were only two of us left and the PE teacher stepped in, ushering us together much to the boy’s dismay. When it was time for the game, things didn’t get better. Nobody wanted me on their team. Nobody passed the ball to me. I trotted up and down the pitch, waving my arms and yelling to my teammates as I heard them say: 
 
“Girls can’t play football.” 
 
“She shouldn’t be here.”
 
“I can’t believe she thinks she’s one of us.”
 
I never went back. I didn’t love the sport enough to put up with that.
 
It’s a horrible feeling to find yourself in a place where you aren’t accepted or celebrated for all the brilliant things you can give. I wish I had been stronger. I wish I’d shrugged off the comments and catcalls and stood my ground. But it’s easy to look back and wish you’d done things differently. 


Whilst we are seeing improvement, barriers still exist. Many girls want to play football, and other sports, but are unable to access it or feel like they don't belong if they give it a chance. One negative experience can be powerful enough to stop them showing up again.

I think that sharing some of these stories is helpful because it makes us aware that these barriers exist. And once we are aware of them, we can do something about it.

So let's start the conversation! Have you ever experienced anything like this? Or maybe seen it, heard it, or have a brilliant success story?

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20/2/2019

Stepping Out My Comfort Zone

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I’ve always liked challenging myself. I’m not a fan of small, realistic goals; my philosophy is to set the bar high and find a way to achieve it. Stepping outside my comfort zone is a thrilling mix of excitement and apprehension, and it never ceases to amaze me how quickly we can adapt, stretching the limits of our potential and redefining what we think we are capable of.
 
This year I’ve pushed myself in a completely new direction and signed up to do a 5km open water swim for The Mintridge Foundation. If I’m completely honest, I am a teeny bit terrified and wondering how I am going to rise to this one.
 
The sports I have chosen in the past have been very mentally demanding, but not so physically tough on my body. Competing as an international archer my favourite part was being put under pressure; it was just me, my bow and trying to get everything right. And whilst endurance was an important part, where I had to make sure I could keep consistency and accuracy over a full day, it was never about pushing 
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my body to breaking point. Sure, I do a little bit of swimming to maintain general fitness levels, but the reality is that I have one speed only – slow – and I look a bit like a demented turtle.
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The thing that scares me the most – the open water bit. The cold is something that I struggle with as it makes my pain levels a million times worse. If humans had the ability to hibernate over winter I’d sign up straight away. In archery, one of my most impressive talents was my ability to wrap myself in six or seven layers and still be able to move. My ski gear has travelled all around the world with me, and I’ve worn it in the desert in Arizona, ​
stadiums in Shanghai and Italian summers. So yes, I think I’m going to find this part the hardest and I’ve got some thinking out the box to do to make sure my health is not affected. 
 
So why am I doing it?
 
I want to prove to myself that I can. Setting new challenges teaches us more about ourselves; pushing the boundaries of what we think we are capable of is key to our personal growth and development. You can never know your full potential until you test it. Sometimes the biggest barriers that we face are the ones we put on ourselves and I want to live my life without self-inflicted limits. 
 
And as well as my own personal aspirations I am proud to support The Mintridge Foundation. They do fantastic job at increasing sports participation and improving physical and mental health of children and young people. Sport is such a powerful vehicle for change – it transformed my life as a teenager and helped me come to terms with having a disability. It taught me how to deal with setbacks, build my self-confidence and really value my self-worth. So many people helped me get to where I did and I really want to put something back. Doing this challenge as part of Team Mintridge is awesome – it’s great to feel part of something bigger and it’s giving me the motivation to dig deep, keep getting up early and get swimming.
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​And sure, it’s a daunting. I always find that the hardest part is taking that first step out of my comfort zone. In that space outside things become clearer and it’s easier to figure out how to raise your game. We find a way to make things happen and get the job done. When we confront the things we fear, when we have our tenacity tested and when we push through it we come out much stronger on the other side. 
 
So I’ve stepped out. I’m working hard and I’m slowly building up to getting out in the open water. Yes, I’m looking forward to the challenge. Yes, it scares me, but I’m going to give it my best shot. I’ve never been very good at quitting and I’m really looking forward to discovering the full measure of my potential.
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​I am taking part in the Great East Swim on the 22nd June. I would be super grateful for any support to my chosen charity The Mintridge Foundation, to enable them to continue to make a difference.
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